DISQUS

Just Too Logical: Set Big Goals Or No Goals

  • billywiseguy · 8 months ago
    The biggist mistake here is in the last sentence. You have used the word "fail", thus enjoining the concept of failure to your subconscious. A lot of people around you will be negative, saying things like "its too hard", "get real", or "keep dreaming". You must avoid these people. For me for example, I have taken out the word "fail" out of my vocabulary. I have seen great effects since I have done this, and that is only over the past 3 or 4 months. Now, another key is to learn how to control your subconsciously. This might sound ridiculous, but it is possible. I have done it, again about 3 or 4 months ago. Just like how you can train your mind, memorizing stuff etc.. you can train your subconscious, kind of like how habits are formed.

    Now, I understand that life isn't always sweet, but when you try to achieve something and you don't, do not call that failure, since the minute you do, you have failed. Call it another step of growth. This way, you will always go upward.

    And... when your subconscious believes it, that is proof that YOU have believed it.

    -bill
  • Chaalz · 8 months ago
    I really like the "your subconscious believes it" in YOUR last sentence. Its kind of an oxymoron because one would think that if you believe it then you're conscious of it. I understand your point, although I'm not a stickler for or against using the word "fail".

    What I have realized though is that if an idea comes into my head and I have to force myself to think positively about it, or force myself to stop thinking about all that can go wrong, then I usually fail.

    But for the times that I was successful, I've realized that I just sort of "knew" that I was going to make it. (Makes me wonder whether it was pre-desitned! :) ok lets not go there since thats a whole different topic. lol.)

    From "The Secret", they say a positive thought is a thousand times more powerful than a negative one. Maybe my initial "oh yeah of course I can do that", is all it took for success, and all other thoughts cast into the universe after that are moot.

    Thanks for reading!
    Chaalz
  • Hed · 8 months ago
    Billwiseguy, I like your "step of growth" vs failure idea. That's why I have NO REGRETS in life. everything i ever did, or didn't do has caused me to get to this point right now.
    On the whole question of goal setting, I still believe in setting smaller achievable goals, but not just for the sake of setting them, they must be backed up with a plan of action. This is the way to ensure achievement of any goal, regardless of size! So I guess what I'm trying to say is that when it comes to goals, SIZE DOES NOT MATTER...it all boils down to having a real desire for something, making a true commitment for it's achievement and proper planning to help you along the way.
  • Matt Cheuvront · 8 months ago
    Hey man - this is a great post, I think having a few BHAG's (big hairy audacious goals) in your life is extremely important. They can drive and motivate you. But don't let them define you. If you fall short of your goal, you haven't failed - you can also replan and refocus, it's important not to get discouraged if you can't meet every goal you have laid out.

    If you don't retire by age 35 - cross that bridge one you come to it, think about what you could have done better to achieve your goal. Refocus, tweak it a bit, and hold your head high moving forward.

    Great blog sir - look forward to reading more from you!